Stoma – the word often evokes fear and anxiety. It is associated with illness, surgery and, above all, the unknown. It is no wonder that people who learn that they need a stoma feel fear, sadness and even trepidation. In this article we will try to dispel doubts and show that life with a stoma, although different, does not have to be worse at all.
What is a stoma?
A stoma is a surgically created connection of a fragment of intestine or urinary tra ct with the skin. Depending on the location, we distinguish between:
- Colostomy – the emergence of the large intestine into the abdominal shell.
- Ileostomy – small bowel emergence.
- Urostomy – the emergence of the ureters.
A stoma can be temporary or permanent. A temporary stoma is placed for a specific period of time, such as after bowel surgery, to allow the bowel to heal. A permanent stoma is necessary when a portion of the intestine or urinary tract must be removed.
Why does a stoma inspire fear?
Fear of a stoma is due to many factors:
- Fear of the unknown. People who have never had to deal with a stoma often don’t know what to expect. They worry about pain, complications, and how it will affect their daily lives.
- Loss of control. A stoma is associated with loss of control over excretion. It is natural for this to raise concerns and fears.
- Change in appearance. The stoma is visible on the abdomen, which can affect self-esteem and attractiveness.
- Fear of rejection. Some people fear that the stoma will affect their relationships with loved ones, as well as their social and professional lives.
How to deal with fear?
Above all, remember that you are not alone. Many people live with a stoma and lead normal, active lives. Here are some tips to help you get used to your new situation:
- Gain knowledge. The more you know about your stoma, the less reason to be afraid. Talk to your doctor, stoma nurse, and other people with stomas.
- Take care of yourself. A healthy diet, physical activity and proper stoma care are the cornerstones of well-being.
- Don’t isolate yourself. Meet with loved ones, talk about your emotions, seek support in self-help groups.
- Focus on what you can control. You can choose the right stoma equipment, learn how to use it and take care of your stoma.
- Give yourself time. Adapting to life with a stoma is a process. Don’t expect everything to be perfect right away.
Living with a stoma – practical tips
- Stoma equipment selection. There are many types of stoma bags and plates available on the market. Together with your stoma nurse, choose the equipment that will be most comfortable for you.
- Stoma care. Regular and proper stoma care is the key to avoiding irritation and infection.
- Diet. After surgery, you may need to make some dietary changes. A nutritionist will help you arrange a menu that will prevent digestive problems.
- Physical activity. Most physical activities are also possible with a stoma. Remember to properly secure the ostomy bag.
- Intimate Life. A stoma does not have to mean giving up your sex life. There are special accessories that make intimate intercourse easier.
Where to look for help?
- Stoma nurse. He is a specialist who will give you comprehensive support in stoma care and adaptation to life with it.
- Doctor. Contact your doctor if you have any problems with your stoma.
- Associations and Foundations. There are many organizations in Poland for people with stomas. They offer support, advice and organize integration meetings.
- Online support groups. On the Internet you can find forums and groups where you can talk to other people with stomas, exchange experiences and get help.
Remember that a stoma is not a sentence. It is a new situation that you need to adapt to. With the right attitude, support from loved ones and specialists, you can lead a full and satisfying life.
